To Valentine’s Or Not?
Does Valentine's only serve to remind those of us without partners of our singledom? Or is it a day that can genuinely serve as a reminder to love ourselves?
Does Valentine's only serve to remind those of us without partners of our singledom? Or is it a day that can genuinely serve as a reminder to love ourselves?
As you’re maybe aware if you follow my social media, I’m writing a book! The blog inspired more writing and so what started as just the blog in book format has snowballed into a 6 year memoir of me rebuilding post-divorce and getting back into dating. Many of the stories from the blog are in the book but there’s also a lot more about my personal growth and struggle, and other areas of my life - not just the men.
You know the internet is crazy when an inanimate object slides into your DMs. And it’s even creepier when said inanimate object messages in reply to one of your instagram stories “hey, that’s my view” when you’ve posted a pic from your balcony.
I haven’t written for a while. I haven’t written because this year has kicked my ass. There has been man stress, work stress, more man stress, and now more work stress. I haven’t had mental capacity for the blog and, for months now, I haven’t been “properly” dating either, albeit somehow there are still men in my life.
Questions are good. Curiosity and inquiring minds are the foundation of the world but after a date, should you be left with more questions than answers?
How much do you really need to be able to communicate in a relationship? When you’re from incredibly different backgrounds AND there’s a language barrier, should we just accept that communication is going to be difficult, and maybe this isn’t going to be one of those deep and meaningful relationships?
Are walls a good thing? Should we be erecting them? No, not the Mexican border kind ordered by an over-tanned, over-inflated world leader. But the kind that protect ourselves, protect our hearts?
The end of a year or a significant milestone in time can be a great time for self reflection and a reset. But how do we know we're truly assessing from an objective point of view and not just following a narrative that has already been constructed and we're obliviously following?
How do you ignore your gut? Should you even try? Or should you just always go with it? Even when you want it to be wrong?
If there’s one rule I try to live by in life, and dating, it’s “always say yes to a boat”.
I like to think I make good decisions. Ok, well I like to think I make decisions. But do you ever question your decision making ability? And wonder what the hell you were thinking when you decided on something?
I love when I read something that resonates so much that it feels like it was written for me, or to me, or I wish it was written by me. There's a few versions of this poem around online, and I'm not entirely sure yet which is the definitive one, but this is the very first version of it I ever read, and I loved it then and I love it now.