Divorced And Dating at 30

Divorced & Dating at 30 was my first blog, my first foray into writing publicly, albeit anonymously at the time. It was written when men, & alcohol, were aplenty in my life.These stories are of a different time of my life, a time when I was still unsure of who I was and how to navigate the world of dating.

There's a few more tales to tell from this era of my life and I'll get to them one day but these stories are proof to me of how far I've come, although I'm still not sure I've figured out the world of dating...

Ok, Woah – Part 3 of 4

2018-11-14T16:05:59-08:00November 14th, 2018|

After the epic first date weekend (is a first date weekend a thing? We made it a thing), we texted a little throughout our work day on the Monday after he’d left in the morning - which was day four of seeing each other.

Oh Wow – Part 2 of 4

2018-10-22T09:24:02-07:00October 22nd, 2018|

I think I got 2 hours sleep after our first date night of drinks, and meeting friends, and seeing each other’s apartments, and dancing in the living room, and incredible sex... and I was more than a little tired.

O – Part 1 of 4

2018-10-19T06:52:40-07:00October 19th, 2018|

Jul-2017 Leaving work on the Friday afternoon, I wasn’t 100% sure what to expect from my date with O. Looking back at his online dating profile I couldn’t quite pinpoint why I’d swiped right but, in all of our messaging, [...]

I’ve Found It Hard To Write

2018-10-12T05:47:50-07:00October 12th, 2018|

Oct-2018 I’ve found it hard to write because five years after my divorce papers were signed, I’m still single. I’ve found it hard to write because it's been difficult to find the humour, and the silver linings, and the lessons [...]

Jesus Take The Wheel

2018-07-29T20:51:38-07:00July 29th, 2018|

I like to think I make good decisions. Ok, well I like to think I make decisions. But do you ever question your decision making ability? And wonder what the hell you were thinking when you decided on something?

I Have Learned

2018-06-29T19:36:26-07:00June 29th, 2018|

I love when I read something that resonates so much that it feels like it was written for me, or to me, or I wish it was written by me. There's a few versions of this poem around online, and I'm not entirely sure yet which is the definitive one, but this is the very first version of it I ever read, and I loved it then and I love it now. 

The Power of No

2018-06-15T05:26:11-07:00June 15th, 2018|

At what point in matching with someone on a dating app do you give up your right to say no? At what point when you’re chatting with someone over text do you give up your right to say no? At what point after you’ve met up with someone in real life do you give up your right to say no?

The Doctor Will See You Now

2018-06-11T05:42:49-07:00June 11th, 2018|

In a summer where I was finding no shortage of dates or online dating app matches with a variety of success, his dating profile pictures were almost too immaculate. His response to my first Bumble message too smooth. His Instagram too curated. He was either a catfish or a douchebag.

Pasta And Appendages

2018-06-08T05:40:16-07:00June 8th, 2018|

We’ve talked about it before - someone being great on paper but then it not working out in real life. But what about being great on paper AND being great in text and then there being zero spark in person? How is that possible? Do people have ghost (text) writers?!

Can I Go Now, Sir?

2018-06-04T08:57:27-07:00June 4th, 2018|

You know when you make plans and they seem like a good idea at the time, but then when the time comes you realise you’re tired and you’d rather stay in? But you go and figure you’ll just cut the night short but then the guy you’re out with attempts to bargain with you to make you stay out and chooses to lecture you on how much you’ll regret it if you go home?